We are often too self-critical, and sometimes our inner voice, too, is down right mean. It is time for us to stop being so hard on ourselves and for our inner voice to be loving instead of critical. Here are a few tips to change that self-loathing inner voice to a self-loving voice:
We’re often our biggest critic and sometimes not very nice to ourselves. It’s time to stop being so hard on you and learn to love yourself instead. Here are a few tips to help you do just that.
Spend Time Alone
It’s important to spend time alone in order to get to know yourself better. In order to love yourself you first need to know who you are. Spending time alone allows you to reflect on your wants and needs to determine if something in your life needs to be changed. Learning to spend time with yourself is crucial for learning to love yourself.
Be Compassionate to Yourself for a Change
Change the way your inner voice communicates with you. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself. Be nice to yourself – you deserve it!
It’s okay to say no. If you don’t want to do something, or can’t, don’t feel obligated to agree. You don’t have to come right out and say no at first; simply saying “Let me check my schedule and get back to you” gives you more time to think about the situation and respond accordingly.
Success comes in all shapes and sizes and you should celebrate them all! No matter how small, take time to celebrate your accomplishments. This reinforces self-love in a major way.
Ask for Help
You don’t have to handle everything life throws at you alone. Asking for help is a true sign of strength and an indication that you truly love yourself. When life becomes challenging or you feel overwhelmed, seek out a trusted confidant or professional.
Being mindful of whom you spend your time with and what you’re doing is another way to cultivate self-love. The people we surround ourselves with and the things we do are a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. Be sure to surround yourself with those who are positive and bring out the best in you.
You are your own best friend and you should treat yourself as such. Loving yourself isn’t selfish; it’s necessary to your overall health and well being. No matter what you have going on in life, be sure to take time for yourself.
My name is Amanda Itzkoff, MD. I am a New York City based Psychiatrist and Assistant Professor at Mount Sinai Medical Center.
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